15 Feb 2013

Black Friday

Street style, leather trousers

street style

Coat: River Island, Top: Topshop, Trousers: Topshop, Boots: Asos

I'm not sure how many of you are aware but today is Black Friday, today all South Africans are encouraged to wear black in order to raise awareness against rape in the country. South Africa has one of the highest rates of rape against women as a country with a study suggesting that 1 in 4 women in South Africa may fall victim to rape. 

As I'm sure you’re aware I'm not from South Africa but I don't think that should stop people from raising awareness. It's tragic that in Interpol South Africa's rape capital it is said that a woman has more chance of getting raped then educated. 

Sorry if me writing a different type of post offends you or disappoints you in some way but some issues are worth raising awareness about. 

14 Feb 2013

"You're too skinny"

O dear where have I been, I am so sorry I completely disappeared for 2 weeks I've just been beyond busy working on some super exciting things. I hope you will agree that its worth me not blogging for two weeks once I reveal the big surprise.

There is a clue at this Facebook page here: Creative Crafts that I have been helping out with. So if you are a crafter, DIY fanatic or have your own shop/blog shop go over and like it! There will hopefully be a craft fair in a few months so it will be a great chance for some of you to sell the things you make without even leaving your house!

OK so on to the actual purpose of this blog post...

Recently someone had the cheek to say to me “You’re too skinny, you need to eat more." YES they actually said this to my face. I was obviously rather offended by this, I'm not sure how the comment was intended or how I was supposed to take it but I certainly didn't take it well.

I have always been slim, I am just a naturally slim person yet people have always commented on my weight over the years. Why do people think it’s acceptable? If I commented on someone’s weight and asked them "Why are you so big, why don't you eat less?" all of you would probably agree that would be wrong. But for some reason society thinks it’s OK to comment on your weight if you are slim. 

When I was at school I vividly remember having to weigh ourselves at the front of the class, it was a science class and I think we had to work out what we would weigh in space (I can’t remember exactly but It was something along those lines). When it came to my turn I stood on the scales and the teacher just looked at me made me get off and then get back on the scales as if somehow this would change what they said. She then commented saying "O your small" as if I didn't already know that. I hit puberty late so I was short, shapeless and invisible in school. I was in a class where I had no friends as it was and here she was giving them something else to laugh at me for. Thanks for that. 

Over a year ago I went to the doctors because I had been being sick for the last few weeks, I've had problems with feeling sick for a while now but I was going through a weird patch of being sick in the night for a few weeks. I obviously went to the doctors (for the 100th time) and the doctor who wasn't my usual doctor asked me in a rude tone "you don't have an eating disorder do you?" I would like to clarify I was being sick not making myself sick and for starters this doctor won’t be receiving any awards for her sensitivity, what if I did have an eating disorder (I don't) she certainly didn't approach the issue in the right way. I left the doctors annoyed, frustrated and with morning sickness tablets; yes the ones they give to pregnant people even though I wasn't pregnant. 

I have since found out that I probably have an intolerance to a type of food and that's what makes me ill, and if the doctor I visited had actually weighed me she would have noticed that I have been the exact same weight for the last few years. 

Recently a friend told me something that actually angered me, you know in cartoons where their heads go bright red and steam comes out of their ears? Well that was me. A particular clothing store aimed towards curvier ladies won’t hire you if you are what they consider 'too slim' and can't fit into their clothes (they start at a size 14). Now part of me understands this as they want people that can advertise their clothes however as far as I’m concerned this is discrimination. Would it be OK if it was the other way round? I could be wrong but I don't think it would be. I can't imagine a shop like New Look saying to someone directly 'I'm sorry but your too fat to fit into our clothes so you can’t work here' yet this shop that I won’t name (I don't want them coming after me with pitchforks) directly said to someone I know "I'd hire you if you were bigger and could fit into our clothes." 

This really angers me, in fact to the point I have considered applying for a job just to see what they would say to me. Don't worry I reeled myself back, I'm no undercover reporter (although that would be an awesome job). 

So the purpose of this blog post is to say ‘skinny’ people and ‘fat’ people (I hate both of those terms) are the same. Neither generally likes having their weight commented on. 

Rant over